It is my nature that I like to help others. I attended the Counselling Class with our Church 40 years ago. I learned some techniques from the discussion with the fellow church members. I also picked up some knowledge from reading the book.

I received a call from a young volunteer asking for help in 2012. I then fell into the trap of a wolf in sheep's clothing. With my kind nature, I put in the unconditional love. I was not aware of the viciousness of an evil heart. A Christian sister who knew that I was carrying out the counselling, she kept praying for me. One day, she asked me to give up the counselling as the young man was an evil heart. But I persisted on.

I spent my time, effort and money for five months. Then I faced the "Ungrateful" and "Turn against a friend and show no mercy".
[Record of the happening: the last story of The Unconditional Love.]

After reading the article of Leslie Vernick, I wished that I should have read it earlier. But God has His beautiful plan. After suffering from the evil experience, I understood better of the article.

Some people who are not perfect and full of weakness and sin. They really need our help. But there are evil hearts who do not really need our help. They do not struggle against sin or evil and happily indulge evil urges.

(1)   Evil hearts are experts at creating confusion and contention.
They twist the facts, mislead, lie, avoid taking responsibility, deny reality, make up stories, and withhold information.
"I spent much effort to help him turning away from the darkness. When he was better, he started to argue and wrangle with me. He tried to lead me to the darkness."
"He told me that his mother would like to meet me and he invited me home. But his parents were not at home when I was there."

(2)   Evil hearts are experts at fooling others with their smooth speech and flattering words.
But if you look at the fruit of their lives or the follow through of their words, you will find no real evidence of godly growth or change. It's all smoke and mirrors.
"He was not a Christian, but he said he was. I found out the truth when I asked him to say the grace."
"He led me passing by those cheap massage shops several times."

(3)   Evil hearts crave and demand control and their highest authority is their own self-reference.
They reject feedback, real accountability and make up their own rules to live by. They use Scripture to their own advantage but ignore and reject passages that might request self-correction and repentance.
"I had to spend one hour on train to meet him. But he took for granted on the time I spent."
"I used the Bible verses, the teaching of famous Buddhist monk and wise words from the experts. He insulted me telling cock and bull story."

(4)   Evil hearts play on the sympathies of good-willed people, often trumping the grace card.
They demand mercy but give none themselves. They demand warmth, forgiveness, and intimacy from those they have harmed with no empathy for the pain they have caused and no real intention of making amends or working hard to rebuild broken trust.
"I had to meet him very frequent during the first month. We met six times within eight days. I woke up after 1 a.m. several times by his phone calls."
"I almost fell to death from the staircases at Outram Park Station when going to meet him. I was almost killed by cars at the express in Tampines."
"He passed the can of drink for me to take after taking by him thrice."

(5)   Evil hearts have no conscience, no remorse.
They do not struggle against sin or evil, they delight in it, all the masquerading as someone of noble character.
"He deeply affected my voluntary activities, my social meetings and family life. It would be worthy if you sacrificed yourself and helped a person to turn over a new leaf. But he was ungrateful and did not correct his mistakes."
"He forgot that the doctor mistook he was my child and advised him to turn over a new leaf. The doctor asked him to listen to me and be a good boy."

As pastors and Christian counsellors, please read this article and think about it.
Five Indicators Of An Evil Heart by Leslie Vernick