It was 21 July 2003 afternoon when I received a call from my son's
form teacher. She told me that my son Solomon had an accident and
was bleeding. She asked me to go to school as the ambulance was on
the way to school. I was confused and worried because Solomon
supposed to be at the Science Centre with his schoolmates and
teachers that afternoon.
When I arrived at school, I saw the children were waiting to go to
visit the Science Centre. Shakil, Solomon's good-friend-classmate, saw
me and told me that Solomon was in the office. I entered the office and
went directly to hold his hand. He requested me to pray for him immediately.
A staff was using a cotton wood to help stopping the bleeding from his nose.
After saying the prayer, I heard the principal telling me about the
happening of the accident. She apologised for the accident and asked
two boys to apologise to me too.
One of the boys threw a plastic bag with a lunch box in it
to the other boy and it struck Solomon on his nose.
I was too concerned about Solomon
and did not find out more about the accident and whom the two boys
were. I knew that there were teachers, staff, workers and classmates
giving helping hands. Someone gave me Solomon's school uniform and
singlet and I just put them into my bag. I left his schoolbag, document
file and water bottle in the office, as we had to go to the National
University Hospital (NUH).
When the ambulance arrived, one of the healthcare staff told me
that I had to go to the hospital by my own transport. I was told that
it was the new rule after the SARS. I requested him to let me accompany
Solomon to hospital with the ambulance as he requested me earnestly.
The healthcare staff finally agreed. He gave me a mask to put on and
asked me a few questions ensuring that I was free from SARS. On
the way to the hospital, he asked Solomon about the accident, took
his blood pressure, consoled him and even told him that he was a strong
boy.
While we were in the hospital, the doctor attended to Solomon. After
the preliminary examination, Solomon went for an X-ray taking. When
I was waiting outside the X-ray room, I wanted to telephone my wife.
While taking out the hand-phone from my bag, I realised Solomon's
school uniform and singlet were in the bag. There were patches of
bloodstain. I thank God that someone in the school let Solomon wear
a clean uniform. Otherwise, I would be nervous if I saw it and my
expression would make Solomon worried. After taking the X-ray,
the doctor applied the glue on the cut of Solomon's nose. He also
gave us a note on caring for our child's wound if glue was used.
We would like to thank the healthcare staff and doctor for their
care and good services.
When we went back to school to take the belongings, the two boys
were still in the office. They came forward to say sorry when we went
in. Then I found out one of the boy used to telephone Solomon asking
him about the homework. He was waiting for his parents to take him
home. He was crying sadly. I walked forward, fondled his face, and
asked him to study hard and not to be too playful. He then cried more
sadly. I asked Solomon to console him and told him that everything was
alright already.
Solomon went sleeping after coming back from school until we woke
him up for dinner. During that time, the boy called. After that, Shakil
called too. I thanked them and told them that Solomon was sleeping.
The next morning, the principal telephoned me. As she had to attend
a meeting yesterday, she told the staff to handle the matter and was
kept updated every now and then. She personally looked into the matter
the following morning. After inquiring the children, she found that
Solomon and a classmate were playing/throwing ice at each other earlier on.
That might cause danger to others. Therefore, other than the two boys,
a classmate and Solomon would get the punishment. She would cane each one
of them one stroke on their palm of hand. I requested to talk to Solomon
through the telephone. I confirmed with Solomon that he did play
"throwing ice" with that classmate. I then told him that the principal would
cane him.
An hour after the conversation with the principal, the doctor from
NUH called. He said that after the specialist had examined the X-ray,
Solomon had to go back to NUH for further examination by the specialist
the next Monday. He told me not to be worried and that would not be a
major surgery.
In the afternoon, I went to the school to take Solomon home after
his taking part in the Mathematics Competition. On the way home, I
told him about the calls from his principal and the doctor. I had also
informed his form teacher that he would be absent from class next
Monday as we had to visit the specialist in NUH.
When we were back home, he showed me the caning report from
principal and I signed it. After that, I told him that I had written
a letter to thank his principal in handling the accident wisely and
fairly as well as taking disciplinary action on him.
I told him that we should also thank the teachers, staff and
workers who took care of him. And I requested the principal
to convey our appreciation to the classmate for their love and
concern, as well as the sincerity of that boy's mother.
I also urged him to work hard and behave well that he would
be able to win honour for his school.
After reading the letter to him, he would hand in the letter
to his principal through his form teacher the next day.
When I saw the wound on the
nose of my son, I was very pained. But when I saw the little boy
crying so sad, how my son consoled him, received his call in extending his
regards, I admired their friendship and fraternal love.
When the principal told me that she was going to cane my son,
I was very sad. But I realised that it is really difficult to bring
up a child. We appreciated the principal and teachers' effort
to give guidance to so many children. It is much more difficult
for them.
Praise God that let me learn
and put His Love into action, let me learn to be tolerant in dealing
with others in this incident.