I called her as San Jie (third sister in Mandarin). Sometimes I called her 'sister' in English.

Julie is the only child of my third sister. I made an appointment with my niece Julie that I would visit sister at her place on 22 December. My hand phone alerted me on my appointments during lunch time on that day. I then realised that I had to visit the Eldercare Centre in Jurong West at 1.30 p.m. From the past experience I would postpone the appointment of visiting sister. But I did not do so and just delay my visiting on that day.

That was the first time I drove to the Eldercare Centre. After carrying out the volunteer work in the centre, I phoned Julie to find out the way from Jurong West to Woodland. I was not certain the route and I prayed that God guide me the way.

I reached there and the maid brought me to the bedroom. I was very surprised to see my pallid sister. She looked very much different than the day I visited her six months ago.

I knew that it would not be much time for us to meet again. Sister still had the strong will. She told me that she became a 'useful person' after her last admission into the hospital. I did not say much. She was looking for the brotherly affection, she failed. She would only find the true love from our Lord.

Whenever I had visited sister with my son Solomon for the past fifteen years, she always sighed. She told brother-in-law that we were the only family that visited her. We visited her once every month. We brought some movie video for her to pass her time. When we had to go home, she would tell Solomon that to visit her often.

For the past many years, we used to give her some goodies before the Chinese New Year prior our oversea trip during Chinese New Year holidays. I explained to Solomon that I stayed in sister's place when I was young. Sister ever took care of Solomon for six months when he was two years old. I told Solomon that we had to be grateful.

When sister was young, she had to earn a living. And I stayed in her place when I was young too. When sister was not in Singapore, her landlord would take care of me liked her own child. I got the shelter from sister when I was in trouble. Therefore I was not so sad. But when I saw sister came home with tiredness, I was touched.

Our aunties, cousins and many relatives who knew that we were not fairly treated; they came and talked to our parents. They were then hurt because of their effort in upholding us.

When I was in trouble, sister offered me a shelter. When a number of siblings betrayed sister, we continued to visit sister and we were boycotted.

Sister was very sorry that she ever to be the go-between in borrowing a great sum of money from us and made us in a difficult financial situation.

Sister always sighed that some people used her hard-earned money and were very ungrateful. She was initially wondered why I sometimes did not answer to her questions. I did not tell her that she was not welcome by someone. She only realised the reason when she asked my nephew to do a minor thing for her and my nephew was in a difficult situation. I always told sister to forget about the past. I advised her to go for tour when brother-in-law was free.

Sister told me that she would made her will and would like Solomon to be one of the beneficiaries. I told sister that not to worry about Solomon. I taught Solomon to be grateful and money could not buy us true love.

Sister remembered the days when a number of our siblings seek refuge with her and stayed with her. She then let one of the nieces knew that she would be making her will before she died. After which, she seemed she regained what she hoped for. When she was then 'well' treated by the 'long-missing' sibling, we had to minimise our visiting in order not to cause interruption.

It was such a change for a period of six months. Sister was still strong six months ago. She was very weak now. Sister, do not complain and do not be regret. Lord our Father will give us true love.

Sister was called to Lord. I spent two nights at the obsequies. I took only ten hours' rest for those three days. After the funeral, I almost met a road accident that evening. I felt asleep when I drove to watch an opera. Thanks God, I woke up when I reached the entrance to the flyover.

When we went to correct the ashes in the afternoon of the funeral, we looked at the ashes. Third brother-in-law said to me, "Look at the snow white ashes, how third sister can have the evil intention to people?"
Yes, if you have the ill will, how did I let you take care of Solomon when he was young?
God will take good care of us. Do not be worry, sister.

Sister liked to sing a Chinese song 《苦命的苗家》 when she was young.
太阳出来红啊
月亮出来黄啊
苗家要出头
摆脱苦和愁
好比那月亮赶太阳啊
一世也赶不上啊
好比月亮赶太阳啊
越赶就越没下场啊
.....

There were verses that mentioned 'It was like the moon going after the sun in order to be freed from suffering and worry. It was impossible for the moon to catch up even spending a life time.'
Sister, rest in peace.

Amusing Grace - a hymn my third sister loved much